THE LIGHT AND THE MUSIC
For at one time you were darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Walk as children of the light (for the fruit of light is found in all that is good and right and true), and try to discern what is pleasing to the Lord (Ephesians 5:8-10).
I made up a phrase for people who bless instead of curse as they pass by. I call them "the light and the music" people. These people are the pleasant, agreeable people who bring good energy to our lives - leaving a lingering memory behind that uplifts and elevates. We feel better after interacting with them and when we check our emotional gas tank - we find that we have received a free fill-up!
I once read a metaphor for measuring the influence of relationships using the banking terms of deposits and withdrawals. We know in banking that we need to make more deposits than withdrawals into our account or we will end up in the red. Following the logic of the metaphor, if we don't make enough deposits in relationships around us, the relationships will fail to show a profit.
Some among us make deposits so regularly that we begin to depend on them to be generous givers of their precious energy to our poor, beleaguered spirits. However, have you ever stopped to notice how valuable and rare these people truly are?
May I mention here that I am blessed to be married to someone who is filled with "light and music" and who is uniquely gifted in the art of passing on that energy in the form of humor? If laughter is the music of the soul, then I have experienced the sweetest music imaginable.
But, now I turn my attention to understanding this concept so that I can make my own generous deposits. How can I further define what I mean by using the phrase "the light and the music?"
I am using the term "light" in regards to how little energy someone requires from me because they are easily endured with little difficulty or discomfort. I am using the term "music" in regards to the energy that flows into me when I hear an agreeable sound that is pleasing to my mind and my senses. Both of these things become profitable deposits into my own spirit.
It is interesting to note that The Law of Conservation of Energy states that energy cannot be created or destroyed. It can only be converted into matter and vice versa because energy cannot create energy.
I guess the only hope for those of us who don't necessarily carry around with us an abundance of energy, is to stay connected to the only true power source - God. His energy flows into us when we access His resources and then we have the amazing privilege of allowing His energy to flow through us into the lives of people we meet.
It has been said that there is a generous supply of heavenly light and music for those who are tuned in. Is it time to change your dial?
Friday, December 17, 2010
Thursday, December 9, 2010
I've been thinking about Christmas...
"God, bless us, every one!" - Tiny Tim
When A Christmas Carol was first published in 1843 it met with instant success and critical acclaim. Charles Dickens touched a nerve with his character of Ebenezer Scrooge who undergoes a complete transformation after supernatural visitations from his former business partner, Jacob Marley, and the Ghosts of Christmases Past, Present and Future.
Apparently many people related to Scrooge. When his pinched, cold heart is restored to the innocent goodwill he had known in his childhood, readers jumped to their feet in their hearts clapping with abandon. And, before long, they were evaluating their own hearts and lives in light of the startling challenges found in the story.
The evidence suggests that Christmas traditions had been waning in England for some time and the reality is that this novella almost singlehandedly revitalized Christmas spirit. Did Dickens write The Christmas Carol to provoke a change in the barren attitudes that he witnessed?
Today, we need the same strong ideological, ethical and emotional transformation we see in Scrooge. Cynicism is once again creeping into our spirits and most of us have awakened to find ourselves in unpleasant places.
How can I return to the joyful enthusiasm of my own childhood in the celebration of Christmas? Joy returns when I fill the tradition with the truth, compare my attitude to the plum line of Scripture, and then let it transform me.
In Matthew 5:45 we read that our heavenly Father "makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust." God generously sprinkles common grace and care upon all of His creatures. And, therefore, because we call ourselves disciples of Jesus, we are to imitate God and love both our neighbors and our enemies.
This is only possible because we can clearly see in Scripture how God has made His will and His character known. It is the purpose of the children to manifest the nature of their Father and it is the nature of the Father to give common grace.
It may interest you to know that A Christmas Carol has NEVER been out of print. God's blessing rests upon the timeless truth of "Good Will Toward Men" that is found as a theme in the story because it is bathed in the truth of God's common grace falling on the just and the unjust.
So, Tiny Tim's prayerful benediction is indeed appropriate! God bless us, every one!
When A Christmas Carol was first published in 1843 it met with instant success and critical acclaim. Charles Dickens touched a nerve with his character of Ebenezer Scrooge who undergoes a complete transformation after supernatural visitations from his former business partner, Jacob Marley, and the Ghosts of Christmases Past, Present and Future.
Apparently many people related to Scrooge. When his pinched, cold heart is restored to the innocent goodwill he had known in his childhood, readers jumped to their feet in their hearts clapping with abandon. And, before long, they were evaluating their own hearts and lives in light of the startling challenges found in the story.
The evidence suggests that Christmas traditions had been waning in England for some time and the reality is that this novella almost singlehandedly revitalized Christmas spirit. Did Dickens write The Christmas Carol to provoke a change in the barren attitudes that he witnessed?
Today, we need the same strong ideological, ethical and emotional transformation we see in Scrooge. Cynicism is once again creeping into our spirits and most of us have awakened to find ourselves in unpleasant places.
How can I return to the joyful enthusiasm of my own childhood in the celebration of Christmas? Joy returns when I fill the tradition with the truth, compare my attitude to the plum line of Scripture, and then let it transform me.
In Matthew 5:45 we read that our heavenly Father "makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust." God generously sprinkles common grace and care upon all of His creatures. And, therefore, because we call ourselves disciples of Jesus, we are to imitate God and love both our neighbors and our enemies.
This is only possible because we can clearly see in Scripture how God has made His will and His character known. It is the purpose of the children to manifest the nature of their Father and it is the nature of the Father to give common grace.
It may interest you to know that A Christmas Carol has NEVER been out of print. God's blessing rests upon the timeless truth of "Good Will Toward Men" that is found as a theme in the story because it is bathed in the truth of God's common grace falling on the just and the unjust.
So, Tiny Tim's prayerful benediction is indeed appropriate! God bless us, every one!
Monday, November 22, 2010
I've been thinking about marriage...
Marriage: An Interdevelopmental Partnership
Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barrett, married in 1846
Frank Butler and Annie Oakley, married in 1882
Pierre and Marie Curie, married in 1895
George Burns and Gracie Allen, married in 1926
Billy and Ruth Bell Graham, married in 1943
Why are these names familiar? They represent couples whose names are linked together forever because they experienced a special kind of relationship - an interdevelopmental partnership. This is a relationship in which both partners bring out the best in each other by encouraging personal development and growth.
One famous couple, Pierre and Marie Curie, worked together for the benefit of humanity. As an industrious student, Marie caught the eye of Pierre Curie, director of one of the laboratories at the Sorbonne in Paris, France. In 1898 they discovered polonium and radium and, then, in 1903, along with scientist Henri Becquerel, they won the Nobel Prize in Physics for discovering radioactivity.
An interdevelopmental partnership demonstrates that along with supporting and bringing out the best in each other, there are many opportunities to lay down our lives for each other, as well.
The roles we each play in a partnership shift according to the need. Cindy White, a brilliant entertainment designer, said this about partners, "A great partner lets you soar without drifting away. Sometimes they are the wind that's hoisting you up. Sometimes they are the ones on the ground, holding the kite string."
A great example of this is found in the comedy team of George Burns and Gracie Allen. When they started their partnership, Burns wrote all of the funny punch lines for himself and wrote Allen's character as the "straight man." When they performed, however, the audience rewarded Allen with laughter for her supposed straight questions and responded to Burns' funny answers with silence.
Individual egos can really mess up a great partnership and this was a true test of George's ego. As Burns put it, "It broke my heart, but I was young, hungry and not a dope." From then on, he wrote routines to take advantage of Allen's natural gift for comedic delivery. This was the beginning of over four decades of fame and success for Burns and Allen. In later years, both attributed their success to each other.
It is important to note that we each have the ability to choose how we will be in an interdevelopmental relationship. Am I willing, when necessary, to encourage my partner to evolve their possibilities?
What does this look like in the DelHousaye home? "Darryl, becoming the president of Phoenix Seminary is exactly what you should do!" "Jacque, if Holly works for you, she will make you great!"
Then, alternately, when necessary, am I willing to lay down my life for the good of my partner?
What does this scenario look like in the DelHousaye home? "Let's tackle that challenge together!" "Go ahead and accept that opportunity. I will be waiting for you when you come home."
During the course of our marriage, we can provide what great partners have always provided for each other - encouragement and sacrifice bathed in love and friendship. As Jesus said in John 15:13, "Greater love has no one more than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends."
Because friendship is at the heart of a good creative partnership, the whole is much greater and stronger than the individual parts. Together we are better!
Robert Browning and Elizabeth Barrett, married in 1846
Frank Butler and Annie Oakley, married in 1882
Pierre and Marie Curie, married in 1895
George Burns and Gracie Allen, married in 1926
Billy and Ruth Bell Graham, married in 1943
Why are these names familiar? They represent couples whose names are linked together forever because they experienced a special kind of relationship - an interdevelopmental partnership. This is a relationship in which both partners bring out the best in each other by encouraging personal development and growth.
One famous couple, Pierre and Marie Curie, worked together for the benefit of humanity. As an industrious student, Marie caught the eye of Pierre Curie, director of one of the laboratories at the Sorbonne in Paris, France. In 1898 they discovered polonium and radium and, then, in 1903, along with scientist Henri Becquerel, they won the Nobel Prize in Physics for discovering radioactivity.
An interdevelopmental partnership demonstrates that along with supporting and bringing out the best in each other, there are many opportunities to lay down our lives for each other, as well.
The roles we each play in a partnership shift according to the need. Cindy White, a brilliant entertainment designer, said this about partners, "A great partner lets you soar without drifting away. Sometimes they are the wind that's hoisting you up. Sometimes they are the ones on the ground, holding the kite string."
A great example of this is found in the comedy team of George Burns and Gracie Allen. When they started their partnership, Burns wrote all of the funny punch lines for himself and wrote Allen's character as the "straight man." When they performed, however, the audience rewarded Allen with laughter for her supposed straight questions and responded to Burns' funny answers with silence.
Individual egos can really mess up a great partnership and this was a true test of George's ego. As Burns put it, "It broke my heart, but I was young, hungry and not a dope." From then on, he wrote routines to take advantage of Allen's natural gift for comedic delivery. This was the beginning of over four decades of fame and success for Burns and Allen. In later years, both attributed their success to each other.
It is important to note that we each have the ability to choose how we will be in an interdevelopmental relationship. Am I willing, when necessary, to encourage my partner to evolve their possibilities?
What does this look like in the DelHousaye home? "Darryl, becoming the president of Phoenix Seminary is exactly what you should do!" "Jacque, if Holly works for you, she will make you great!"
Then, alternately, when necessary, am I willing to lay down my life for the good of my partner?
What does this scenario look like in the DelHousaye home? "Let's tackle that challenge together!" "Go ahead and accept that opportunity. I will be waiting for you when you come home."
During the course of our marriage, we can provide what great partners have always provided for each other - encouragement and sacrifice bathed in love and friendship. As Jesus said in John 15:13, "Greater love has no one more than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends."
Because friendship is at the heart of a good creative partnership, the whole is much greater and stronger than the individual parts. Together we are better!
Wednesday, November 10, 2010
I've been thinking about pressure...
Not Under Compulsion
Compulsion - the state of being compelled
Compelled - to drive or urge forcefully or irresistibly; to cause to do or occur by overwhelming pressure
Have you noticed that compelling someone to do something does not work very well? What is our natural reaction to pressure? To dig in our heels, of course. So why do we persist in trying to motivate others this way?
I know, by personal experience, that if I act in the pressure of the moment, I may later regret my action. Regret kills - murders the effect - of any satisfaction I might find in doing what I thought was right or good to do in the first place.
2 Corinthians 9:6&7 provides an interesting look into motivation when it says, The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has made up his mind, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
Here are some related words to the "not under compulsion" idea:
not of grief
not regretting his gift, as if it were wrung from him (!)
not sorrowfully
not with sadness
not by constraint
The Apostle Paul, who wrote these words, never employed high-pressure methods in raising church funds. In his first letter to Corinth he asked that monies be given systematically, on a regular weekly basis, specifically so that there would be no pressure to collect an offering when he arrived.
I think we can safely launch from this idea into determining that pressure that produces action motivated by all the wrong reasons is certainly at the very least, demotivating and most often unproductive and useless.
In contrast, Jesus wisely used attraction to motivate people He came in contact with all throughout His ministry on this earth. He taught the value of becoming "fishers of men" to His disciples as a metaphor for successfully drawing individuals to the truth.
Fishermen use lures as an enticement to catch fish. Lures hint of pleasure and gain. What is the best way to gain the attention of someone? Show genuine interest in them and their well-being.
It takes more time to be patient to understand a person and what motivates them than it does to beat them into submission through exerting pressure. I know I brighten when someone understands what makes me tick and then delights my fancy by showing me a better way. How about you?
Compulsion - the state of being compelled
Compelled - to drive or urge forcefully or irresistibly; to cause to do or occur by overwhelming pressure
Have you noticed that compelling someone to do something does not work very well? What is our natural reaction to pressure? To dig in our heels, of course. So why do we persist in trying to motivate others this way?
I know, by personal experience, that if I act in the pressure of the moment, I may later regret my action. Regret kills - murders the effect - of any satisfaction I might find in doing what I thought was right or good to do in the first place.
2 Corinthians 9:6&7 provides an interesting look into motivation when it says, The point is this: whoever sows sparingly will also reap sparingly, and whoever sows bountifully will also reap bountifully. Each one must give as he has made up his mind, not reluctantly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.
Here are some related words to the "not under compulsion" idea:
not of grief
not regretting his gift, as if it were wrung from him (!)
not sorrowfully
not with sadness
not by constraint
The Apostle Paul, who wrote these words, never employed high-pressure methods in raising church funds. In his first letter to Corinth he asked that monies be given systematically, on a regular weekly basis, specifically so that there would be no pressure to collect an offering when he arrived.
I think we can safely launch from this idea into determining that pressure that produces action motivated by all the wrong reasons is certainly at the very least, demotivating and most often unproductive and useless.
In contrast, Jesus wisely used attraction to motivate people He came in contact with all throughout His ministry on this earth. He taught the value of becoming "fishers of men" to His disciples as a metaphor for successfully drawing individuals to the truth.
Fishermen use lures as an enticement to catch fish. Lures hint of pleasure and gain. What is the best way to gain the attention of someone? Show genuine interest in them and their well-being.
It takes more time to be patient to understand a person and what motivates them than it does to beat them into submission through exerting pressure. I know I brighten when someone understands what makes me tick and then delights my fancy by showing me a better way. How about you?
Tuesday, November 2, 2010
I've been thinking about light...
POKING HOLES IN THE DARKNESS
A disciple of Christ is instructed in the Bible to allow his or her light to shine through good works. And, we are told, a lifestyle filled with the light of good works brings glory to God.
Jesus says in Matthew 5:14-16, You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
God uses our good works, made visible in and through our lives, to show the world what He is like. The word for good is kala which can be translated lofty actions, fine deeds, upright works. The shared meaning of all of these words? Attractive, beautiful, shining displays that draw attention to God and His excellent character.
In Psalm 103 we see the perfections of God's character revealed. Verse 6 - the Lord works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed. Verse 8 - the Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. Verse 10 - He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. Verse 13 - as a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear Him.
A story is told of Robert Lewis Stevenson, who spent much of his childhood in poor health. One night his nurse found him at his bedroom window, mesmerized by a lamplighter slowly working his way through the black night. Always concerned for his health, she fussed, "Child, come away from there. You'll catch your death of cold." However, young Robert would not leave the window. Pointing, he exclaimed, "See; look there; there's a man poking holes in the darkness."
Watchers are mesmerized as they see the beautiful character of God revealed through the light of our actions:
- a torch flame burning over the needs of the downtrodden,
- a bright burst of patience when toes are being stepped on,
- a candlelight display of undeserved gracious forgiveness,
- a flash of a lighthouse beacon illuminating sacrificial service,
these things poke holes in the darkness of our world - a world begging for SOMEONE to shed some light.
Poking holes in the darkness isn't easy - dare I say, This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine?
A disciple of Christ is instructed in the Bible to allow his or her light to shine through good works. And, we are told, a lifestyle filled with the light of good works brings glory to God.
Jesus says in Matthew 5:14-16, You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.
God uses our good works, made visible in and through our lives, to show the world what He is like. The word for good is kala which can be translated lofty actions, fine deeds, upright works. The shared meaning of all of these words? Attractive, beautiful, shining displays that draw attention to God and His excellent character.
In Psalm 103 we see the perfections of God's character revealed. Verse 6 - the Lord works righteousness and justice for all who are oppressed. Verse 8 - the Lord is merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast love. Verse 10 - He does not deal with us according to our sins, nor repay us according to our iniquities. Verse 13 - as a father shows compassion to his children, so the Lord shows compassion to those who fear Him.
A story is told of Robert Lewis Stevenson, who spent much of his childhood in poor health. One night his nurse found him at his bedroom window, mesmerized by a lamplighter slowly working his way through the black night. Always concerned for his health, she fussed, "Child, come away from there. You'll catch your death of cold." However, young Robert would not leave the window. Pointing, he exclaimed, "See; look there; there's a man poking holes in the darkness."
Watchers are mesmerized as they see the beautiful character of God revealed through the light of our actions:
- a torch flame burning over the needs of the downtrodden,
- a bright burst of patience when toes are being stepped on,
- a candlelight display of undeserved gracious forgiveness,
- a flash of a lighthouse beacon illuminating sacrificial service,
these things poke holes in the darkness of our world - a world begging for SOMEONE to shed some light.
Poking holes in the darkness isn't easy - dare I say, This little light of mine, I'm going to let it shine?
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
I've been thinking about significance...
SYNCING UP
Synchronization or "syncing" is an important piece of technology that has come of age in this generation. We all know that data synchronization between our favorite devices is necessary to keep all of the facets of our daily lives organized and congruent.
However, I am thinking of a different kind of synchronization - the syncing up of my inner life - thought chatter going on inside my mind - with my outer life - the various events that affect my body and mark the passage of time.
As I think about it, the more proper way to describe what I am thinking may be the ability to be "in the moment" with both my body and my mind. One thing is certain - to be in the moment, I will need to slow down the rapid movement of the inner thought chatter.
I have heard the term "flight of ideas" to describe the meandering thought processes of a mind spun up on frenetic energy. Thoughts do literally fly through ours minds in brilliant, imaginative and unrestrained ways. Slowing them down takes an intentional effort!
I picture two wheels of sensory input turning at different rates - an inner wheel and an outer wheel - which I then work to connect so that they sync together in tempo, speed and duration. Only then can I truly relax into the moment and not miss the significance of where I am on my spiritual timeline - time being the medium for the passage of predestined events throughout the course of my life.
Wow! Heady stuff! But necessary to understand the SIGNIFICANCE of the things that happen to me. Significance is so often obscure or indirect. My only hope is to be alert to the possibility of something having major significance even though it may be disguised and then hope and pray that I "get it" when it happens.
O Lord, slow me down to catch the significance of the events of my life. Help me get what You are trying to tell me. Help me commit to syncing up instead of being out of sync most of the time... You are my only hope!
But as for me, my prayer is to You, O Lord.
At an acceptable time, O God,
in the abundance of Your steadfast love
answer me in Your saving faithfulness.
Psalm 69:13 ESV
Synchronization or "syncing" is an important piece of technology that has come of age in this generation. We all know that data synchronization between our favorite devices is necessary to keep all of the facets of our daily lives organized and congruent.
However, I am thinking of a different kind of synchronization - the syncing up of my inner life - thought chatter going on inside my mind - with my outer life - the various events that affect my body and mark the passage of time.
As I think about it, the more proper way to describe what I am thinking may be the ability to be "in the moment" with both my body and my mind. One thing is certain - to be in the moment, I will need to slow down the rapid movement of the inner thought chatter.
I have heard the term "flight of ideas" to describe the meandering thought processes of a mind spun up on frenetic energy. Thoughts do literally fly through ours minds in brilliant, imaginative and unrestrained ways. Slowing them down takes an intentional effort!
I picture two wheels of sensory input turning at different rates - an inner wheel and an outer wheel - which I then work to connect so that they sync together in tempo, speed and duration. Only then can I truly relax into the moment and not miss the significance of where I am on my spiritual timeline - time being the medium for the passage of predestined events throughout the course of my life.
Wow! Heady stuff! But necessary to understand the SIGNIFICANCE of the things that happen to me. Significance is so often obscure or indirect. My only hope is to be alert to the possibility of something having major significance even though it may be disguised and then hope and pray that I "get it" when it happens.
O Lord, slow me down to catch the significance of the events of my life. Help me get what You are trying to tell me. Help me commit to syncing up instead of being out of sync most of the time... You are my only hope!
But as for me, my prayer is to You, O Lord.
At an acceptable time, O God,
in the abundance of Your steadfast love
answer me in Your saving faithfulness.
Psalm 69:13 ESV
Thursday, October 14, 2010
I've been thinking about loneliness...
PLAYING ON THE PLAYGROUND ALONE - AGAIN
I've been wondering -
Is everyone else attending a birthday party that I have not been invited to?
Is there a fabulous parade going on somewhere that I am missing?
Could the circus be in town?
Where is everyone?
Sometimes loneliness overwhelms and a good metaphor to describe how it feels is a playground with only one child on it - me! It is painful to work hard to surround yourself with people you have given to, encouraged, supported, rooted for - only to find yourself in a predicament where you are more lonely than ever before.
Where is the encouragement for the heart during times like this?
My heart has been touched by a passage of Scripture that jumped out to me during a sermon I heard recently. It is found in John 7:38&39 which says, Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, "Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water." Now this Jesus said about the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive, for as yet the Spirit had not been given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
These verses explain that anyone who believes (present tense participle) - meaning a continuing act of believing here and now - will only find satisfaction in coming to Jesus, drinking of Him, believing in Him. Rivers will flow out of his or her innermost being and these rivers bring enlightenment, joy, and power.
Proverbs 21:1 adds, The king's heart is a stream of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever He will. This means God even controls the heart of a king and he can channel the water to flow wherever He wishes.
All this adds up to the fact that when I am lonely I must turn my focus inward to the source of life and energy and vitality. I must remember I am weak and that I depend on God for the very sustenance of my life. As He directs the flow of water outward, He is doing so to bless others.
It seems so difficult to get back to this profoundly simple thought. I know I must become empty and depleted to once again be filled up with the fullness of God. Out of the fullness of my heart flow all the thoughts and words and choices of my life.
And the Lord will guide you continually
and satisfy your desire in scorched places
and make your bones strong;
and you shall be like a watered garden,
like a spring of water,
whose waters do not fail.
- Isaiah 58:11
I've been wondering -
Is everyone else attending a birthday party that I have not been invited to?
Is there a fabulous parade going on somewhere that I am missing?
Could the circus be in town?
Where is everyone?
Sometimes loneliness overwhelms and a good metaphor to describe how it feels is a playground with only one child on it - me! It is painful to work hard to surround yourself with people you have given to, encouraged, supported, rooted for - only to find yourself in a predicament where you are more lonely than ever before.
Where is the encouragement for the heart during times like this?
My heart has been touched by a passage of Scripture that jumped out to me during a sermon I heard recently. It is found in John 7:38&39 which says, Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, "Out of his heart will flow rivers of living water." Now this Jesus said about the Spirit, whom those who believed in Him were to receive, for as yet the Spirit had not been given, because Jesus was not yet glorified.
These verses explain that anyone who believes (present tense participle) - meaning a continuing act of believing here and now - will only find satisfaction in coming to Jesus, drinking of Him, believing in Him. Rivers will flow out of his or her innermost being and these rivers bring enlightenment, joy, and power.
Proverbs 21:1 adds, The king's heart is a stream of water in the hand of the Lord; He turns it wherever He will. This means God even controls the heart of a king and he can channel the water to flow wherever He wishes.
All this adds up to the fact that when I am lonely I must turn my focus inward to the source of life and energy and vitality. I must remember I am weak and that I depend on God for the very sustenance of my life. As He directs the flow of water outward, He is doing so to bless others.
It seems so difficult to get back to this profoundly simple thought. I know I must become empty and depleted to once again be filled up with the fullness of God. Out of the fullness of my heart flow all the thoughts and words and choices of my life.
And the Lord will guide you continually
and satisfy your desire in scorched places
and make your bones strong;
and you shall be like a watered garden,
like a spring of water,
whose waters do not fail.
- Isaiah 58:11
Monday, October 4, 2010
I've been thinking about motivation...
A Strange Malaise
Malaise - an indefinite feeling of weakness often indicative of or accompanying the onset of an illness; a vague sense of mental or moral ill-being
I have been contemplating why I am feeling a general sense of malaise. I noticed it recently when I was handed a job that requires energy and I found myself unable to initiate the way I would like to...
As a student of motivation, right here and right now I am making it my personal agenda to study my own lack of motivation. Am I feeling overwhelmed - as in - what can I possibly do that would matter? Am I feeling discouraged - as in - is the entire world going to hell in a hand basket? Am I feeling disheartened - as in - doesn't it seem like the enemy is trumping every hand?
A dear friend recently reminded me of the battle charge of the Women of Substance class at Scottsdale Bible Church. This was an enrichment hour ministy that four of us led during the middle 1990's. During that season a fragment of a verse in Daniel 11:32 became our class motto. It says "people (in our case - women) who know their God shall stand firm and take action."
In thinking about it now, the words instill a strength of purpose and motivation that stir the imaginations of my heart. What truly motivates me? A sense of wonder about possibilities... What would the world be like if I would not only firmly resist but take STRONG action based upon my loyalty to God?
Intersecting here, my mind wanders to recent discussions regarding what causes transformational change. All along in these discussions, I have been refining my own personal formula for change which currently goes like this:
inspiration + knowledge + wonder + trust = aspiring to change
I know my formula is a little complex right now, but I can't legitimately take away any of the concepts. If my attention is stirred and I become inspired, and then after gaining some experiential knowledge, a sense of wonder kicks in over the possibilities, and then I move to trust that I can actually do something, I am thinking that then and only then do I desire and aspire to take action! All of these steps are needed for transformational change!
What is the outcome of taking action? A robust, vigorous health which restores my strength in purpose and outlook. I stand up tall and become sturdy once again! Look out world!
Malaise - an indefinite feeling of weakness often indicative of or accompanying the onset of an illness; a vague sense of mental or moral ill-being
I have been contemplating why I am feeling a general sense of malaise. I noticed it recently when I was handed a job that requires energy and I found myself unable to initiate the way I would like to...
As a student of motivation, right here and right now I am making it my personal agenda to study my own lack of motivation. Am I feeling overwhelmed - as in - what can I possibly do that would matter? Am I feeling discouraged - as in - is the entire world going to hell in a hand basket? Am I feeling disheartened - as in - doesn't it seem like the enemy is trumping every hand?
A dear friend recently reminded me of the battle charge of the Women of Substance class at Scottsdale Bible Church. This was an enrichment hour ministy that four of us led during the middle 1990's. During that season a fragment of a verse in Daniel 11:32 became our class motto. It says "people (in our case - women) who know their God shall stand firm and take action."
In thinking about it now, the words instill a strength of purpose and motivation that stir the imaginations of my heart. What truly motivates me? A sense of wonder about possibilities... What would the world be like if I would not only firmly resist but take STRONG action based upon my loyalty to God?
Intersecting here, my mind wanders to recent discussions regarding what causes transformational change. All along in these discussions, I have been refining my own personal formula for change which currently goes like this:
inspiration + knowledge + wonder + trust = aspiring to change
I know my formula is a little complex right now, but I can't legitimately take away any of the concepts. If my attention is stirred and I become inspired, and then after gaining some experiential knowledge, a sense of wonder kicks in over the possibilities, and then I move to trust that I can actually do something, I am thinking that then and only then do I desire and aspire to take action! All of these steps are needed for transformational change!
What is the outcome of taking action? A robust, vigorous health which restores my strength in purpose and outlook. I stand up tall and become sturdy once again! Look out world!
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
I've been thinking about my ancestry...
The Wreck of the Hesperus
I remember my mother using the phrase, The Wreck of the Hesperus, to describe "a really big mess." She would say: "This house/room looks like the wreck of the Hesperus!"
In talking with her recently, I asked her if she knew the history of the expression. She replied that she did not - but that she clearly remembered her mother and her grandmother using it and many other colloquialisms just like it.
She also told me that my grandmother's grandmother immigrated for Scotland and here is where I discovered an interesting tidbit about my ancestry. When I researched the phrase, I discovered that it is the title of well-known ballad by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow written in the 1800's.
It is a story about the tragic consequences of a proud sea captain's arrogance during an ill-fated voyage one winter. The captain brings his daughter along aboard ship for company. However, the voyage becomes a disaster when the captain ignores the advice of an experienced seaman who fears a hurricane is approaching. The seaman implores the captain to put the ship into port but the captain refuses.
When the hurricane arrives, the captain ties his daughter to the mast to prevent her from being washed overboard during the storm. The girl cries out to her dying father and even prays to Christ to calm the seas but there is no salvation because the foolish pride of the father has sealed their fate. The ship crashes into a reef and sinks.
The next morning, a horrified fisherman discovers the daughter's body, still tied to the mast, drifting in the surf. The poem then ends with a prayer asking Christ to save us all from succumbing to a similar fate - the kind of pride that leads to destruction.
In further researching the title phrase, I discovered that this expression is used more prominently in the UK where it means a "disheveled appearance" or an "untidy room." Hence, the connection to my Scottish ancestors who used the expression and passed it down through the generations to me!
By the way, ironically, Hesperus means "evening star." How sad that something so lovely should be remembered instead for its macabre connection to a tragedy.
I remember my mother using the phrase, The Wreck of the Hesperus, to describe "a really big mess." She would say: "This house/room looks like the wreck of the Hesperus!"
In talking with her recently, I asked her if she knew the history of the expression. She replied that she did not - but that she clearly remembered her mother and her grandmother using it and many other colloquialisms just like it.
She also told me that my grandmother's grandmother immigrated for Scotland and here is where I discovered an interesting tidbit about my ancestry. When I researched the phrase, I discovered that it is the title of well-known ballad by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow written in the 1800's.
It is a story about the tragic consequences of a proud sea captain's arrogance during an ill-fated voyage one winter. The captain brings his daughter along aboard ship for company. However, the voyage becomes a disaster when the captain ignores the advice of an experienced seaman who fears a hurricane is approaching. The seaman implores the captain to put the ship into port but the captain refuses.
When the hurricane arrives, the captain ties his daughter to the mast to prevent her from being washed overboard during the storm. The girl cries out to her dying father and even prays to Christ to calm the seas but there is no salvation because the foolish pride of the father has sealed their fate. The ship crashes into a reef and sinks.
The next morning, a horrified fisherman discovers the daughter's body, still tied to the mast, drifting in the surf. The poem then ends with a prayer asking Christ to save us all from succumbing to a similar fate - the kind of pride that leads to destruction.
In further researching the title phrase, I discovered that this expression is used more prominently in the UK where it means a "disheveled appearance" or an "untidy room." Hence, the connection to my Scottish ancestors who used the expression and passed it down through the generations to me!
By the way, ironically, Hesperus means "evening star." How sad that something so lovely should be remembered instead for its macabre connection to a tragedy.
Wednesday, September 1, 2010
I've been thinking about roots...
Roots and Wings
My parents, Don and Mary Jo Briggs, have been closely connected to a small town in Iowa from many decades. They both were born around Marcus, Iowa - dad in 1927 and mom in 1930.
Marcus recently was given a restored 1929 Model A Ford that had once been owned by a beloved doctor, Dr. Michael Francis Joynt. The town of Marcus planned to feature the car in the annual Marcus Fair Parade and then put it on display at the Marcus Fair. Why all the fanfare?
Dr. Joynt practically "died with his boots on" after taking good care of everyone in Marcus for many years. Dr. Joynt came to Marcus in 1910, having just graduated from medical school. He stayed in Marcus for his entire career, retiring in 1955 and passing away in 1965.
As you can imagine, Dr. Joynt is remembered for many things - but one thing in particular stands out - ALL the babies he delivered. Each birth was carefully recorded in his "Delivery Record" book.
The Delivery Record lists the first birth he attended - August 2, 1910 - and the last - July 9, 1955. Over the course of his 45 year career in Marcus, Dr. Joynt delivered over 3000 babies. This is amazing considering that the population of the town of Marcus usually hovers around 1200.
My mom, who has worked in the Marcus Fair Booth for years, looked through the Delivery Record and there to her delight she found a special line - listed under the year 1949 - and the date of May 16th. There she found a line listing the name Donald Briggs and the careful notation of a birth of a daughter - Holly Linda - baby 1956 - ME!
Mom made a copy of the record and sent it along to me. Poof! I was immediately transported back in a unique way to my roots!
All these years later with much water under the bridge, I can truly appreciate the dedication of Dr. Joynt and the years he labored to serve the people of Marcus. What a legacy of love and loyalty. The kind of legacy that gives my heart wings and reminds me of what is important in life.
Don't miss it, Holly! Community and service and love and loyalty are where it is at and where it will always be at! The memory of Dr. Joynt gives me roots and wings!
My parents, Don and Mary Jo Briggs, have been closely connected to a small town in Iowa from many decades. They both were born around Marcus, Iowa - dad in 1927 and mom in 1930.
Marcus recently was given a restored 1929 Model A Ford that had once been owned by a beloved doctor, Dr. Michael Francis Joynt. The town of Marcus planned to feature the car in the annual Marcus Fair Parade and then put it on display at the Marcus Fair. Why all the fanfare?
Dr. Joynt practically "died with his boots on" after taking good care of everyone in Marcus for many years. Dr. Joynt came to Marcus in 1910, having just graduated from medical school. He stayed in Marcus for his entire career, retiring in 1955 and passing away in 1965.
As you can imagine, Dr. Joynt is remembered for many things - but one thing in particular stands out - ALL the babies he delivered. Each birth was carefully recorded in his "Delivery Record" book.
The Delivery Record lists the first birth he attended - August 2, 1910 - and the last - July 9, 1955. Over the course of his 45 year career in Marcus, Dr. Joynt delivered over 3000 babies. This is amazing considering that the population of the town of Marcus usually hovers around 1200.
My mom, who has worked in the Marcus Fair Booth for years, looked through the Delivery Record and there to her delight she found a special line - listed under the year 1949 - and the date of May 16th. There she found a line listing the name Donald Briggs and the careful notation of a birth of a daughter - Holly Linda - baby 1956 - ME!
Mom made a copy of the record and sent it along to me. Poof! I was immediately transported back in a unique way to my roots!
All these years later with much water under the bridge, I can truly appreciate the dedication of Dr. Joynt and the years he labored to serve the people of Marcus. What a legacy of love and loyalty. The kind of legacy that gives my heart wings and reminds me of what is important in life.
Don't miss it, Holly! Community and service and love and loyalty are where it is at and where it will always be at! The memory of Dr. Joynt gives me roots and wings!
Monday, August 23, 2010
I've been thinking about thoughts...
So, Let's Capture Those Thoughts!
For as he thinks within himself, so he is. Proverbs 23:7 (NASB)
God has given us all the gift of free will. This gift empowers us to take control of the very thing that creates everything about who we are - our thought life.
In Who Switched Off My Brain, Dr. Caroline Leaf PhD shares her research regarding the science of thought. She says, "Remember, our behavior follows our thoughts, not the other way around. Analyzing and addressing our thoughts are key components of conquering habits and behaviors that seem to hold us hostage. Some of us may have common symptoms of toxic thinking such as pride, anger, rebellion, self-pity, complaining and ungratefulness, while other symptoms can be as dramatic as compulsive gambling, criticizing, overeating or viewing pornography." p. 83
Dr. Leaf encourages us to capture the kind of thoughts that she labels "toxic thinking." Toxic thoughts are thoughts that trigger negative and anxious emotions, which produce biochemicals that cause the body stress.
She reminds us that the Bible speaks to this issue clearly in Philippians 4:8, which says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."
We can break the cycle of toxic thinking. We can break unhealthy patterns! To help us see how, let's define terms:
True - genuine, accurate, exact
Honorable - worthy of deep admiration because of qualities or achievements
Just - morally right and fair
Pure - not mixed or adulterated
Lovely - exquisitely beautiful
Commendable - deserving praise
Excellence - exceptional, outstanding
Praise - express respect and gratitude towards
Only those who associate with God and who are given divine power can be morally excellent on this earth. Only God can free us from becoming victims of our biology.
Paul commands the Philippians "to deliberate," "to evaluate," "to meditate" on what is good and pure - in other words on the things that originate from God. In this way, Christians can renew their minds by capturing toxic thoughts and replacing them with God's truth. A mind dedicated to God's truth and focused on noble and honorable things will produce a life that can stand the test of time.
We can resist the temptations of our culture by meditating on God's truth and letting the Holy Spirit guide and shape our thoughts and behaviors.
So, children of God, let's capture those thoughts! 2 Corinthians 10:5!
For as he thinks within himself, so he is. Proverbs 23:7 (NASB)
God has given us all the gift of free will. This gift empowers us to take control of the very thing that creates everything about who we are - our thought life.
In Who Switched Off My Brain, Dr. Caroline Leaf PhD shares her research regarding the science of thought. She says, "Remember, our behavior follows our thoughts, not the other way around. Analyzing and addressing our thoughts are key components of conquering habits and behaviors that seem to hold us hostage. Some of us may have common symptoms of toxic thinking such as pride, anger, rebellion, self-pity, complaining and ungratefulness, while other symptoms can be as dramatic as compulsive gambling, criticizing, overeating or viewing pornography." p. 83
Dr. Leaf encourages us to capture the kind of thoughts that she labels "toxic thinking." Toxic thoughts are thoughts that trigger negative and anxious emotions, which produce biochemicals that cause the body stress.
She reminds us that the Bible speaks to this issue clearly in Philippians 4:8, which says, "Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things."
We can break the cycle of toxic thinking. We can break unhealthy patterns! To help us see how, let's define terms:
True - genuine, accurate, exact
Honorable - worthy of deep admiration because of qualities or achievements
Just - morally right and fair
Pure - not mixed or adulterated
Lovely - exquisitely beautiful
Commendable - deserving praise
Excellence - exceptional, outstanding
Praise - express respect and gratitude towards
Only those who associate with God and who are given divine power can be morally excellent on this earth. Only God can free us from becoming victims of our biology.
Paul commands the Philippians "to deliberate," "to evaluate," "to meditate" on what is good and pure - in other words on the things that originate from God. In this way, Christians can renew their minds by capturing toxic thoughts and replacing them with God's truth. A mind dedicated to God's truth and focused on noble and honorable things will produce a life that can stand the test of time.
We can resist the temptations of our culture by meditating on God's truth and letting the Holy Spirit guide and shape our thoughts and behaviors.
So, children of God, let's capture those thoughts! 2 Corinthians 10:5!
Saturday, July 24, 2010
I've been thinking about training...
Remembering Dad
My dad grew up on a farm in Iowa. He tinkered and fixed all his life and he did it in a very thorough way. I remember standing next to him in our garage. Little me, dwarfed by his size and strength, focusing on the job in front of me because he was instructing me in hammering a nail. I remember he carefully trained me in the art of pounding - keeping the nail straight all the way into the board - and in the process patiently endured my crooked, miserable attempts.
He also had a very particular way of tackling any job at home. His way broke down into three distinct parts:
preparing to do the job
thoroughly doing the job
cleaning up from doing the job
Today I am sitting here marveling at the impact of his life upon mine once again. I realize that many people do not have the privilege of being the recipient of this kind of training. This is a loss to be sure because it helps a person to succeed in so many areas of life.
Have you noticed that while there always needs to be some kind of preparation for a job and the job sorta gets done - the cleaning up is another issue?
What about the:
loading, folding, wiping, squeegeeing, sweeping, hosing
disposing of dirty rags
putting tools away where they belong
starting a shopping list when supplies run low
emptying the vacuum and cleaning the filters
returning the tape dispenser, stapler, calculator, etc., etc., etc.
I am thankful that my dad took the time to train me in the art of finishing a task well. Right now, I am thinking fond thoughts, appreciative thoughts, remembering dad and his steady, thorough method of fixing. Thanks dad, so much!
Uh oh, but as I sit here, I am also remembering that I recently read that it is not a good idea to leave water in your iron between uses. Excuse me, I've got to run. I have something that needs to be finished up. Dad, I know you would be proud!
My dad grew up on a farm in Iowa. He tinkered and fixed all his life and he did it in a very thorough way. I remember standing next to him in our garage. Little me, dwarfed by his size and strength, focusing on the job in front of me because he was instructing me in hammering a nail. I remember he carefully trained me in the art of pounding - keeping the nail straight all the way into the board - and in the process patiently endured my crooked, miserable attempts.
He also had a very particular way of tackling any job at home. His way broke down into three distinct parts:
preparing to do the job
thoroughly doing the job
cleaning up from doing the job
Today I am sitting here marveling at the impact of his life upon mine once again. I realize that many people do not have the privilege of being the recipient of this kind of training. This is a loss to be sure because it helps a person to succeed in so many areas of life.
Have you noticed that while there always needs to be some kind of preparation for a job and the job sorta gets done - the cleaning up is another issue?
What about the:
loading, folding, wiping, squeegeeing, sweeping, hosing
disposing of dirty rags
putting tools away where they belong
starting a shopping list when supplies run low
emptying the vacuum and cleaning the filters
returning the tape dispenser, stapler, calculator, etc., etc., etc.
I am thankful that my dad took the time to train me in the art of finishing a task well. Right now, I am thinking fond thoughts, appreciative thoughts, remembering dad and his steady, thorough method of fixing. Thanks dad, so much!
Uh oh, but as I sit here, I am also remembering that I recently read that it is not a good idea to leave water in your iron between uses. Excuse me, I've got to run. I have something that needs to be finished up. Dad, I know you would be proud!
Saturday, July 10, 2010
I've been thinking about influence...
Maximizing Your Influence
What is influence? Do I have it? If I have it, how do I maximize it?
It has been said that every action of our lives touches some chord that will vibrate in eternity. If this is the case, then every choice matters and the lives we touch and how we touch them, matter more than we know.
Take a quick look around. Is anyone watching you? If they are, then you have some influence over them. This means you are having an effect on the development of their character.
There is a principle within the universe that goes something like this - the more we focus on our unique purpose and contribution - influence grows. (Biblical support - Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found trustworthy. 1 Corinthians 4:2 ESV)
Our contribution is recognized by others, not because we are trying to impress, but because we are good at what we do - we have a passion for it and we desire to continually improve our skills. (Biblical support - His master said to him, "Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful with little, I will set you over much..." Matthew 25:21 ESV)
When our contribution is excellent and that contribution is supported by excellent character, as well, others who are watching are inspired to follow our good example. (Biblical support - One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much... Luke 16:10 ESV)
Because true selfless service and godly character are rooted in a relationship with Christ, then it naturally follows, the greater likeness to Christ, the greater effect on others. What is the bottom line about influence in the Christian community? We inspire to cause others to aspire.
When others within our sphere of influence aspire to be better people and they are moved toward God through the Savior, Jesus Christ, this constitutes the highest form of stewarding influence over them.
Have you heard the phrase - blessed to be a blessing? I think it can be safely said that if you are stewarding your influence over another person for their eternal benefit, you can be assured that you are, indeed, maximizing your influence.
What is influence? Do I have it? If I have it, how do I maximize it?
It has been said that every action of our lives touches some chord that will vibrate in eternity. If this is the case, then every choice matters and the lives we touch and how we touch them, matter more than we know.
Take a quick look around. Is anyone watching you? If they are, then you have some influence over them. This means you are having an effect on the development of their character.
There is a principle within the universe that goes something like this - the more we focus on our unique purpose and contribution - influence grows. (Biblical support - Moreover, it is required of stewards that they be found trustworthy. 1 Corinthians 4:2 ESV)
Our contribution is recognized by others, not because we are trying to impress, but because we are good at what we do - we have a passion for it and we desire to continually improve our skills. (Biblical support - His master said to him, "Well done, good and faithful servant. You have been faithful with little, I will set you over much..." Matthew 25:21 ESV)
When our contribution is excellent and that contribution is supported by excellent character, as well, others who are watching are inspired to follow our good example. (Biblical support - One who is faithful in a very little is also faithful in much... Luke 16:10 ESV)
Because true selfless service and godly character are rooted in a relationship with Christ, then it naturally follows, the greater likeness to Christ, the greater effect on others. What is the bottom line about influence in the Christian community? We inspire to cause others to aspire.
When others within our sphere of influence aspire to be better people and they are moved toward God through the Savior, Jesus Christ, this constitutes the highest form of stewarding influence over them.
Have you heard the phrase - blessed to be a blessing? I think it can be safely said that if you are stewarding your influence over another person for their eternal benefit, you can be assured that you are, indeed, maximizing your influence.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
I've been thinking about pain...
Staying on the Hurt Line
The Epicurean philosophy, which is deeply embedded in our culture, identifies our desperate attempt to pursue pleasure and flee pain. However, looking into the Bible, we see a very different story in the model of Jesus praying in Gethsemane.
Then Jesus went with them to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to his disciples, "Sit here, while I go over there and pray." And talking with him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, he began to be sorrowful and troubled. Then he said to them, "My soul is very sorrowful, even to death; remain here and watch with me." And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, "My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will." Matthew 26:36-39
The last few days I have talked to women who are in extremely difficult situations and I find myself referring them to the concept of staying on the hurt line. What do I mean? I mean resisting the overpowering desire to move in the direction of denial and repression or to move in the direction of withdrawal and running away. The third choice? Feeling it all, deeply, but staying engaged in an emotionally painful situation because God is about accomplishing something more and He could really use our cooperation.
The hurt line I am referring to does not require a woman to stay in a situation of danger. I am talking about the amount of pain involved in a sacrificial on-going denial of self and the amount of fighting required to not give in to the natural human tendency to flee pain at all costs.
Ecclesiastes 1:18 says, For in much wisdom is much vexation, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow. Vexation is not a word we hear much today but it means trouble, distress or agitation. Why does wisdom cause distress? Because when we become wise, we can anticipate grieving. We know what can happen and we know why it is happening and we begin to mourn what lies ahead.
Because we can anticipate, however, does not mean that God intends for us to cower in our agitation and fear. All I am saying is, sometimes the best place to be in on the hurt line. It is the place of persistent obedience with the possibility of participating in a situation that may ultimately reveal the glory of God in a phenomenal manner.
After all, in Hebrews 12:2 we see that Jesus went on to endure the cross even though He despised the shame and now He is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.
Oh, God give me grace to stay on the hurt line...
The Epicurean philosophy, which is deeply embedded in our culture, identifies our desperate attempt to pursue pleasure and flee pain. However, looking into the Bible, we see a very different story in the model of Jesus praying in Gethsemane.
Then Jesus went with them to a place called Gethsemane, and he said to his disciples, "Sit here, while I go over there and pray." And talking with him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee, he began to be sorrowful and troubled. Then he said to them, "My soul is very sorrowful, even to death; remain here and watch with me." And going a little farther he fell on his face and prayed, saying, "My Father, if it be possible, let this cup pass from me; nevertheless, not as I will, but as you will." Matthew 26:36-39
The last few days I have talked to women who are in extremely difficult situations and I find myself referring them to the concept of staying on the hurt line. What do I mean? I mean resisting the overpowering desire to move in the direction of denial and repression or to move in the direction of withdrawal and running away. The third choice? Feeling it all, deeply, but staying engaged in an emotionally painful situation because God is about accomplishing something more and He could really use our cooperation.
The hurt line I am referring to does not require a woman to stay in a situation of danger. I am talking about the amount of pain involved in a sacrificial on-going denial of self and the amount of fighting required to not give in to the natural human tendency to flee pain at all costs.
Ecclesiastes 1:18 says, For in much wisdom is much vexation, and he who increases knowledge increases sorrow. Vexation is not a word we hear much today but it means trouble, distress or agitation. Why does wisdom cause distress? Because when we become wise, we can anticipate grieving. We know what can happen and we know why it is happening and we begin to mourn what lies ahead.
Because we can anticipate, however, does not mean that God intends for us to cower in our agitation and fear. All I am saying is, sometimes the best place to be in on the hurt line. It is the place of persistent obedience with the possibility of participating in a situation that may ultimately reveal the glory of God in a phenomenal manner.
After all, in Hebrews 12:2 we see that Jesus went on to endure the cross even though He despised the shame and now He is seated at the right hand of the throne of God.
Oh, God give me grace to stay on the hurt line...
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
I've been thinking about aging...
Saging Instead of Aging
On my last birthday I turned 61 years old and someone sent me a card saying I am not aging but saging... I don't know if saging is even a word but I like it and I've been turning the idea over in my mind. I certainly enjoy the positive spin.
Have you noticed how most people want to live a long time, but nobody wants to get old? As the tee-shirt says, aging is not for sissies! However, since it is inevitable, I guess a healthy perspective is to recognize that being 61 years young is more hopeful than being 40 years old, especially if I am spending time actively gaining wisdom through reflection and experience.
Why pursue sage-like wisdom? The book of Proverbs in the Bible clearly instructs that acquiring wisdom is a far more worthy endeavor than obtaining earthly bling. For wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her. Proverbs 8:11 ESV
Darryl's definition of wisdom is making the connections between decisions & results and behaviors & consequences. Practically speaking, wisdom is saying to myself, I am not going to do that again! Pain is a terrific teacher! Whoever gets sense loves his own soul; he who keeps understanding will discover good. Proverbs 19:8 ESV
Demonstrating a desire to please God and honor Christ places a person in the distinguished company of Biblical sages. For definition sake, a sage is someone who is consistently characterized by good judgment. Wisdom rests in the heart of a man of understanding... Proverbs 14:33 ESV
So how does one "sage"? Step one is to flee the temptation to become wise in my own eyes. Again, the book of Proverbs denounces pride and arrogance as the opposite of what God desires for me. Instead, in a very straightforward manner, He instructs me to aggressively pursue wisdom with an attitude of humility. Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget and do not turn away... Proverbs 4:5 ESV
The next step is to be sure to stay on a steep learning curve. Someone has said that you can judge your age by the amount of pain you feel when you come in contact with a new idea. So, welcoming and embracing new things and gracefully adapting to them seem to be necessary to press on to sagehood.
And finally, it seems a sage is often unaware of just how much his or her life is even noticed by others. If somehow something praiseworthy happens, then it is wise to rejoice when others call attention to it and then with forgetfulness of self, quietly press on. Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips. Proverbs 27:2 ESV
So, perhaps the time has come to reflect a little on saging instead of aging. Yes, indeed! Now, there's something to think about.
On my last birthday I turned 61 years old and someone sent me a card saying I am not aging but saging... I don't know if saging is even a word but I like it and I've been turning the idea over in my mind. I certainly enjoy the positive spin.
Have you noticed how most people want to live a long time, but nobody wants to get old? As the tee-shirt says, aging is not for sissies! However, since it is inevitable, I guess a healthy perspective is to recognize that being 61 years young is more hopeful than being 40 years old, especially if I am spending time actively gaining wisdom through reflection and experience.
Why pursue sage-like wisdom? The book of Proverbs in the Bible clearly instructs that acquiring wisdom is a far more worthy endeavor than obtaining earthly bling. For wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her. Proverbs 8:11 ESV
Darryl's definition of wisdom is making the connections between decisions & results and behaviors & consequences. Practically speaking, wisdom is saying to myself, I am not going to do that again! Pain is a terrific teacher! Whoever gets sense loves his own soul; he who keeps understanding will discover good. Proverbs 19:8 ESV
Demonstrating a desire to please God and honor Christ places a person in the distinguished company of Biblical sages. For definition sake, a sage is someone who is consistently characterized by good judgment. Wisdom rests in the heart of a man of understanding... Proverbs 14:33 ESV
So how does one "sage"? Step one is to flee the temptation to become wise in my own eyes. Again, the book of Proverbs denounces pride and arrogance as the opposite of what God desires for me. Instead, in a very straightforward manner, He instructs me to aggressively pursue wisdom with an attitude of humility. Get wisdom; get insight; do not forget and do not turn away... Proverbs 4:5 ESV
The next step is to be sure to stay on a steep learning curve. Someone has said that you can judge your age by the amount of pain you feel when you come in contact with a new idea. So, welcoming and embracing new things and gracefully adapting to them seem to be necessary to press on to sagehood.
And finally, it seems a sage is often unaware of just how much his or her life is even noticed by others. If somehow something praiseworthy happens, then it is wise to rejoice when others call attention to it and then with forgetfulness of self, quietly press on. Let another praise you, and not your own mouth; a stranger, and not your own lips. Proverbs 27:2 ESV
So, perhaps the time has come to reflect a little on saging instead of aging. Yes, indeed! Now, there's something to think about.
Tuesday, May 18, 2010
I've been thinking about shade...
Purposefully Planting Shade Trees
With the rise of the temperatures and the hint of a sizzling summer just around the corner, sitting in the shade with a tall glass of lemonade is mighty inviting. The concept of shade is appreciated by all the cultures of the earth, but especially here in Arizona, where we definitely feel a pressing need for shelter from the scorching rays of the sun.
Shade in Afrikaans is skakering or skadu; shade in Danish is skygge; shade in Dutch is *nuance (interesting) or schakering or *nuancering (even more interesting); shade in Finnish is varjo; shade in French is ombrage or ombre or *nuance (there it is again) or teinte; shade in German is beschatten; shade in Italian is ombra or tinta; shade in Latin is umbra and shade in Spanish is sombra. (Our English word "nuance" is derived from the French language and means slight variations in shades of color, meaning or expression.)
Shade protects, screens and hides. Sometimes shade even provides a secluded retreat from the busy affairs of the day. STOP right here and REFLECT on the last time you swayed in a hammock beneath glorious shade trees.
Did you know that some trees are grown to specifically produce shade? Did you also know shade trees not only radiate beauty and compliment their surroundings, but that they were purposefully handed down by our predecessors as a legacy?
The maxim "Someone's sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago" is credited to both Les Brown and Warren Buffett. This statement is a reminder that greatness is not found in possessions, power, position or prestige but in a thoughtful and generous model steeped in goodness, humility, service and character.
Our predecessors revered God and understood they had a responsibility to leave the world in a better place for generations to come. They read and understood that God is the source of all good things. Psalm 121:5 & 6 says, The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade on your right hand. The sun shall not strike you by day, nor the moon by night. They decided to imitate Him and bless our world instead of cursing it.
Today, I am faced with many choices. Instead of stripping my world in a narcissistic fashion, I would like to be remembered for planting a few glorious shade trees for the next generation. All it takes is purposeful choices. What choices will you make?
With the rise of the temperatures and the hint of a sizzling summer just around the corner, sitting in the shade with a tall glass of lemonade is mighty inviting. The concept of shade is appreciated by all the cultures of the earth, but especially here in Arizona, where we definitely feel a pressing need for shelter from the scorching rays of the sun.
Shade in Afrikaans is skakering or skadu; shade in Danish is skygge; shade in Dutch is *nuance (interesting) or schakering or *nuancering (even more interesting); shade in Finnish is varjo; shade in French is ombrage or ombre or *nuance (there it is again) or teinte; shade in German is beschatten; shade in Italian is ombra or tinta; shade in Latin is umbra and shade in Spanish is sombra. (Our English word "nuance" is derived from the French language and means slight variations in shades of color, meaning or expression.)
Shade protects, screens and hides. Sometimes shade even provides a secluded retreat from the busy affairs of the day. STOP right here and REFLECT on the last time you swayed in a hammock beneath glorious shade trees.
Did you know that some trees are grown to specifically produce shade? Did you also know shade trees not only radiate beauty and compliment their surroundings, but that they were purposefully handed down by our predecessors as a legacy?
The maxim "Someone's sitting in the shade today because someone planted a tree a long time ago" is credited to both Les Brown and Warren Buffett. This statement is a reminder that greatness is not found in possessions, power, position or prestige but in a thoughtful and generous model steeped in goodness, humility, service and character.
Our predecessors revered God and understood they had a responsibility to leave the world in a better place for generations to come. They read and understood that God is the source of all good things. Psalm 121:5 & 6 says, The Lord is your keeper; the Lord is your shade on your right hand. The sun shall not strike you by day, nor the moon by night. They decided to imitate Him and bless our world instead of cursing it.
Today, I am faced with many choices. Instead of stripping my world in a narcissistic fashion, I would like to be remembered for planting a few glorious shade trees for the next generation. All it takes is purposeful choices. What choices will you make?
Saturday, April 17, 2010
I've been thinking about dreaming...
Dream a Little Dream with Me!
Becoming a Dream Bearer
In the book The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson, we are introduced to a character named Ordinary, a Nobody who after receiving a visit from the Dream Giver, leaves the Land of Familiar to pursue his Big Dream.
In the beginning of this modern-day parable, Ordinary realizes that he has been visited by the Dream Giver because he discovers a long white feather resting on the sill of his window. The feather is a message signifying that God Himself has fashioned a dream that He has deposited in Ordinary, His own selected dream bearer.
Just like clouds that are treated with solid particles to convert water droplets into rain, so God seeds a dream in His dream bearer by furnishing the initial vision that stimulates the growth and development of the dream.
A God-given dream is recognizable because it supersedes a dream bearer's immediate reality. The nature of a God-given dream is that it imparts a vision of beauty and excellence that grows in the dream bearer's consciousness as a viable possibility reserved for someday in the future.
God gave me such a dream in the late 1990's to see a women's center developed in the Valley of the Sun. Little did I know then of the meandering path that would lead me to develop Phoenix Seminary's Center for Women with Vision (CWV).
Confirming a Dream
A dream that is seeded and nurtured by God becomes a strongly desired goal in the heart of the dream bearer. The dream appears to have the capacity to fully satisfy a deeply embedded wish or ideal. I have come to believe that the ideal is God's way of motivating His dream bearer to forge ahead into risky territory. The ideal is lovely and lofty because it benefits everyone involved.
Since there is risk in leaving a comfort zone, conquering fears and overcoming obstacles that keep a dream bearer from living a Big Dream, God confirms and reconfirms the dream along the way.
These confirmations are important directional arrows in discerning the timing of the process that God is guiding His dream bearer to follow. The process protects the dream bearer from running ahead of God into presumption or falling back into a place of inertia - a stuck place.
Building a Dream Team
Once the dream is confirmed and the timing is right, then another piece of the journey begins to fall into place. Like passion draws like passion. Other individuals see the vision and desire to commit to the dream, as well.
What exactly draws this kind of support from others? God is at work behind the scenes sparking a noticing that causes others to see the vision with their own eyes.
The team that comes together consists of individuals who share a "like" for the same dream. They are unified because they resemble each other, they are counterparts to each other and equals in character and maturity. They share the same passion to accomplish something for the glory of God.
When Rae Larson asked me to become the director of Phoenix Seminary's Center for Women with Vision, my response was to offer to facilitate a team that would bring the vision into reality. This offer was based upon my belief that God would be faithful to provide His selected team of women in His time.
God has been faithful! He has drawn together team members who share in the many responsibilities of developing the vision. Our mission motto speaks to the respect and honor we have toward all of our team members, Working together to bring vision to life!
Perhaps you, too, have been given a Big Dream. One that can change your life. One that the Dream Giver wants you to achieve. Come on! Step out of your comfort zone and dream a little dream with me!
Becoming a Dream Bearer
In the book The Dream Giver by Bruce Wilkinson, we are introduced to a character named Ordinary, a Nobody who after receiving a visit from the Dream Giver, leaves the Land of Familiar to pursue his Big Dream.
In the beginning of this modern-day parable, Ordinary realizes that he has been visited by the Dream Giver because he discovers a long white feather resting on the sill of his window. The feather is a message signifying that God Himself has fashioned a dream that He has deposited in Ordinary, His own selected dream bearer.
Just like clouds that are treated with solid particles to convert water droplets into rain, so God seeds a dream in His dream bearer by furnishing the initial vision that stimulates the growth and development of the dream.
A God-given dream is recognizable because it supersedes a dream bearer's immediate reality. The nature of a God-given dream is that it imparts a vision of beauty and excellence that grows in the dream bearer's consciousness as a viable possibility reserved for someday in the future.
God gave me such a dream in the late 1990's to see a women's center developed in the Valley of the Sun. Little did I know then of the meandering path that would lead me to develop Phoenix Seminary's Center for Women with Vision (CWV).
Confirming a Dream
A dream that is seeded and nurtured by God becomes a strongly desired goal in the heart of the dream bearer. The dream appears to have the capacity to fully satisfy a deeply embedded wish or ideal. I have come to believe that the ideal is God's way of motivating His dream bearer to forge ahead into risky territory. The ideal is lovely and lofty because it benefits everyone involved.
Since there is risk in leaving a comfort zone, conquering fears and overcoming obstacles that keep a dream bearer from living a Big Dream, God confirms and reconfirms the dream along the way.
These confirmations are important directional arrows in discerning the timing of the process that God is guiding His dream bearer to follow. The process protects the dream bearer from running ahead of God into presumption or falling back into a place of inertia - a stuck place.
Building a Dream Team
Once the dream is confirmed and the timing is right, then another piece of the journey begins to fall into place. Like passion draws like passion. Other individuals see the vision and desire to commit to the dream, as well.
What exactly draws this kind of support from others? God is at work behind the scenes sparking a noticing that causes others to see the vision with their own eyes.
The team that comes together consists of individuals who share a "like" for the same dream. They are unified because they resemble each other, they are counterparts to each other and equals in character and maturity. They share the same passion to accomplish something for the glory of God.
When Rae Larson asked me to become the director of Phoenix Seminary's Center for Women with Vision, my response was to offer to facilitate a team that would bring the vision into reality. This offer was based upon my belief that God would be faithful to provide His selected team of women in His time.
God has been faithful! He has drawn together team members who share in the many responsibilities of developing the vision. Our mission motto speaks to the respect and honor we have toward all of our team members, Working together to bring vision to life!
Perhaps you, too, have been given a Big Dream. One that can change your life. One that the Dream Giver wants you to achieve. Come on! Step out of your comfort zone and dream a little dream with me!
Thursday, April 1, 2010
I've been thinking about perfection...
Practically Perfect in Every Way!
Mary Poppins is a memorable 1964 Disney musical film starring Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke. It is the story of a magical nanny who descends (literally) upon a family living in London in the spring of 1910. Mary brings a healing presence to the home before the wind blows her away to a new destination and a new mission.
Julie Andrews won the Best Actress Oscar that year for her performance and as you can imagine, with her beautiful face and lyrical musical ability, she was able to portray Mary as "practically perfect in every way!"
The line "practically perfect in every way" has become a popular, catchy phrase from the film and one that I was reminded of recently when I attended the musical while it was here in February at the Gammage Theater.
I have been rolling this phrase around in my mind and I find myself considering the subject of perfection. I don't know about you, but when it comes to perfection there is only one place to head to and that is to God's Word. As you may know, the Bible has a thing or two to say about perfection.
For instance in Psalm 119:96, I find this interesting tidbit:
I have seen a limit to all (human) perfection,
but Your commandment is exceedingly broad.
"Broad" meaning, the Lord's commandment has no limit to its perfection, because it is resourced by God's own limitless perfection. Wow! And amazingly, when we as Christians seek to live in conformity to Scripture, we are, in fact, pursuing the very perfection of God.
The way we move toward that perfection is by remaining steadfast in our obedience. Then, throughout our lives, we continue to grow in holiness but are not yet perfected in it because perfection will only be realized when Jesus returns.
But, hey! How encouraging is it that God lets us see His perfection and even feel it a little as we press toward the day that we are completely perfect in His presence.
Until then, here is my latest version of the phrase:
God is "absolutely perfect in every way!"
He easily trumps the Mary Poppins version.
Mary Poppins is a memorable 1964 Disney musical film starring Julie Andrews and Dick Van Dyke. It is the story of a magical nanny who descends (literally) upon a family living in London in the spring of 1910. Mary brings a healing presence to the home before the wind blows her away to a new destination and a new mission.
Julie Andrews won the Best Actress Oscar that year for her performance and as you can imagine, with her beautiful face and lyrical musical ability, she was able to portray Mary as "practically perfect in every way!"
The line "practically perfect in every way" has become a popular, catchy phrase from the film and one that I was reminded of recently when I attended the musical while it was here in February at the Gammage Theater.
I have been rolling this phrase around in my mind and I find myself considering the subject of perfection. I don't know about you, but when it comes to perfection there is only one place to head to and that is to God's Word. As you may know, the Bible has a thing or two to say about perfection.
For instance in Psalm 119:96, I find this interesting tidbit:
I have seen a limit to all (human) perfection,
but Your commandment is exceedingly broad.
"Broad" meaning, the Lord's commandment has no limit to its perfection, because it is resourced by God's own limitless perfection. Wow! And amazingly, when we as Christians seek to live in conformity to Scripture, we are, in fact, pursuing the very perfection of God.
The way we move toward that perfection is by remaining steadfast in our obedience. Then, throughout our lives, we continue to grow in holiness but are not yet perfected in it because perfection will only be realized when Jesus returns.
But, hey! How encouraging is it that God lets us see His perfection and even feel it a little as we press toward the day that we are completely perfect in His presence.
Until then, here is my latest version of the phrase:
God is "absolutely perfect in every way!"
He easily trumps the Mary Poppins version.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
I've been thinking about skin...
Losing Forty Pounds of Flesh
While sitting in my dermatologist's office waiting for my appointment, I noticed a TV screen with a slide that said that a normal person will shed forty pounds of flesh or to be more specific - skin - over the course of a lifetime. (Now I know why the "dust" keeps piling up at home!)
I tried to imagine what forty pounds of butter, or in this case, the hide, the pelt, the skin of my sleek, well-fatted body would look like piled up. And then I tried to imagine what would happen if I did not slough off my old skin but instead built up a hardened impenetrable hide, coarse and rough to the touch.
Then, fast forward to the study of Hebrews where I learned that God continually warns me about hardening my heart and succumbing to unbelief. Apparently it is possible for my heart, the center of my personality, intellect and emotions, to become hardened toward the things of God. What a precarious position if an organ in my own body really needs to shed the callous skin of unbelief and I am unaware of it.
What can I do to reverse hardening of my heart? Here are a couple of thoughts:
1) I must take time to examine my personal commitment to God. Am I paying attention to Him or am I drifting away? Have I become dull and unresponsive to God?
2) I must take time to evaluate my relationships with other Christians. Am I paying attention to my brothers and sisters in Christ or have I stopped listening? Have I become callous, lacking sympathy toward others?
If I am going to lose forty pounds of flesh over my lifetime, than I want to lose it from my callous heart. I want a responsive and vibrant faith. I want the things that please God to sink down deep into the central core of my being where my thoughts, feelings and choices are born. And, I want to experience body life with my brothers and sisters. I want dissonance caused by sin to be challenged and excised from my life. Most of all I want a soft and pliable heart because I want the best that God offers. I want it all!
Proverbs 4:23 says, Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
While sitting in my dermatologist's office waiting for my appointment, I noticed a TV screen with a slide that said that a normal person will shed forty pounds of flesh or to be more specific - skin - over the course of a lifetime. (Now I know why the "dust" keeps piling up at home!)
I tried to imagine what forty pounds of butter, or in this case, the hide, the pelt, the skin of my sleek, well-fatted body would look like piled up. And then I tried to imagine what would happen if I did not slough off my old skin but instead built up a hardened impenetrable hide, coarse and rough to the touch.
Then, fast forward to the study of Hebrews where I learned that God continually warns me about hardening my heart and succumbing to unbelief. Apparently it is possible for my heart, the center of my personality, intellect and emotions, to become hardened toward the things of God. What a precarious position if an organ in my own body really needs to shed the callous skin of unbelief and I am unaware of it.
What can I do to reverse hardening of my heart? Here are a couple of thoughts:
1) I must take time to examine my personal commitment to God. Am I paying attention to Him or am I drifting away? Have I become dull and unresponsive to God?
2) I must take time to evaluate my relationships with other Christians. Am I paying attention to my brothers and sisters in Christ or have I stopped listening? Have I become callous, lacking sympathy toward others?
If I am going to lose forty pounds of flesh over my lifetime, than I want to lose it from my callous heart. I want a responsive and vibrant faith. I want the things that please God to sink down deep into the central core of my being where my thoughts, feelings and choices are born. And, I want to experience body life with my brothers and sisters. I want dissonance caused by sin to be challenged and excised from my life. Most of all I want a soft and pliable heart because I want the best that God offers. I want it all!
Proverbs 4:23 says, Keep your heart with all vigilance, for from it flow the springs of life.
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